more confused

This would be a bold statement to make, but what the heck, I am so I write.
Honestly, the group of people more confused than ABCDs (as we desis refer to the second generation Indian Americans) are actually the migrants here in their first generation.This thought suddenly struck me and the realization dawned on me that this couldn't be more true.
In the normal story a regular, plain vanilla Indian comes to the US for this Masters. By this time, he probably has some years of work experience on him/her. During the Masters, we still remain within our indian circles, going for potlucks, some bhangra nites, some DVD/Cassette movie nites, trying to celebrate the Indian festivals in small groups trying to follow whatever little we can of the actual festival rituals.
We then land with jobs, our group gets split. We move to different parts within the huge country, live in different time zones and try to stay in touch as much as one can. Even in the new town, we still try to find our Indian group of people to hang out with. This is probably the phase of life we get a little more 'Americanized'. Our memory slowly begins to fade. We no longer remember our l'll Indian acts as clearly as we did the day we landed( try and see how many times you hand out things with your left hand these days) . We still do festival get togethers, movie nights etc. The thing is though we have the resources to do a full fledged celebration, we do it to the extent we are comfortable with. Our non-Indian friends aren't sometimes sure what to invite us to and what not to. They are sometimes surprised with our opinions on some topics and for a flash we can see them realizing that we aren't 'true' Indians anymore. Many a times, our heart tells us one thing and so does our mind, but our culture doesn't exactly :).
The question is: Do we pretend to be Indians or do we pretend to be 'Americanized' Indians..which act is the pretense?